The rules that govern the Royal Wedding Ceremony have been inherited from rules and customs passed down from generation to generation. The glittering ceremonies are carried out at various phases and levels. The degree of ceremonies to be carried out must first be given the assent of His Highness the Sultan. The customs that must be performed in a Royal wedding are as follows:

      The "Merisik" Ceremony, or discreet enquiry on the availability of the intended bride
      The Engagement Ceremony
      The Assignment of Tasks Ceremony
      The Henna-Picking Ceremony
      The Acceptance of Gifts Ceremony
      The Sitting-in-State and the Blessing Ceremony
      The Ceremonial Bath

The first part of the ceremony, the "Merisik" is quickly followed by the Engagement Ceremony. After the engagement, and after Her Highness the Sultana has given her assent, the Assignment of Tasks Ceremony is performed. In this ceremony, the Engagement Letter and other gifts from the groom are respectfully presented. The Assignment of Tasks Ceremony is preceded by the "nobat" and the firing of the ceremonial nine-gun salute. The Beautification Ceremony ("Berandam"), which follows the Assignment of Tasks Ceremony, also sees the use of traditional tools and materials. The Royal Bride is blessed with "tepung tawar", and scented with kaffir lime before being bathed.

The Informal Henna ceremony is performed after the Beautification or the "Berandam" Ceremony. This ceremony involves the participation only of lady attendants, and is accompanied by traditional music. The next stage is the Presentation of the Dowry and the Bridal Gifts Ceremony, which is followed by the Marriage Solemnising ("Akad Nikah") Ceremony. All this takes place at the Audience Hall.

The formal Henna Ceremony takes place in the evening of the same day as the Dowry Acceptance Ceremony and the "Akad Nikah" Ceremony. In this ceremony, His Highness the Sultan and other senior Royal Family members bless and sprinkle the "tepung tawar" on the Royal Bridegroom. Her Highness the Sultana and other Royal Family members bless the Royal Bride.

The climax of the Royal Wedding Ceremony is the Sitting-in-State Ceremony, which is held during the Wedding Dinner. The Royal Bride and Bridegroom first sit on the "peterana", or cushioned raised platform, before being taken to sit on the "Geta Kirana", or throne. Their Highnesses the Sultans and Sultanas from other states take turns to bless and sprinkle the "tepung tawar" on the Royal Bride and Bridegroom.

After a few days, the Lime-Scented Bathing Ceremony is held on a several-level platform ("Panca Persada"). The Bridal Couple may be escorted to the "Panca Persada" to the accompaniment of live "nobat" music. The following Welcoming Ceremony is the final ceremony in the Royal Wedding Ceremony. This ceremony, which is held at the Audience Hall, is attended by both the Sultan and the Sultana and other State Officials and important guests.